Melanie Tan

  • 15 min Phone Consultation
    No Cost

    Individual Counselling

    50 min
    Sliding Scale: Closed/Full
    Standard: $120
    Generous: $125+

    75 min
    Sliding Scale: Closed/Full
    Standard: $170
    Generous: $175+

  • Location: Ontario & Broadway, Virtual

    Days and Hours:

    • Thursday 3:00pm - 7:00pm (Virtual)

    • Friday 8:00am - 5:00pm (Virtual)

    • Saturday 9:00am - 2:00pm (In-person)

    • Existential

    • Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing

    • Person-Centred

    • Narrative

    • Trauma Focused

    • Feminist

    • Internal Family Systems (Parts Work)

    • BDSM: Working with Kinky Clients—The Westland Academy of Clinical Sex Therapy

    • Canadian Certified Sex Addiction Specialist—Canadian Addiction Counsellors Certification Federation

    • EMDR Therapy — Alivia Maric, PhD, RPsych and Eve Wilensky, MA, RCC EMDR Training

    • Painful Sex: Working with Genito-Pelvic Pain/Penetration Disorders (GPPD)—Allura Sex Therapy Centre & Provider

    • Sex & Gender 101: The Basics (Mini Course)—The Westland Academy of Clinical Sex Therapy

    • Sex & Trauma: Helping Clients Move Beyond Trauma & Reclaim Their Sexuality—Allura Sex Therapy Centre & Provider

    • Master of Counselling Psychology, Adler University

Bio

Hey, I’m Melanie! I’m a sex therapist, former graphic designer, and storytelling enthusiast. As a bicultural (Singaporean/Canadian), demisexual woman who is personally familiar with polyamory, I bring my whole self to this work so you can feel safe bringing yours.

My ‘way of therapy’ is anchored in the core human experience. I view therapy through an existential lens (often using parts work and narrative therapy)—so basically, I like to look at the "big questions" in addition to your immediate needs.

I work with all types of folks, but I am most effective when we are navigating:

  • Sexual Wellness & Identity: Desire, libido, kinks, painful sex, and exploring gender/sexuality.

  • Shame, Trauma & Compulsion: Healing from assault, religious trauma/purity culture, and compulsive sexual behaviors.

  • Relationship Dynamics: Navigating polyamory, ethical non-monogamy (ENM), and kink dynamics.

  • The Big Stuff: Life’s direction, meaning, and who you are at your core.

Because I am trained in EMDR, we can process trauma at a nervous-system level, not just talk around it. If you’ve ever thought, “I’ve talked in circles about this thing and it just won’t go away,” this might be a way to help clean out the issues that just unlatch it’s claws from you.

Finally, a note on safety: As a survivor of sexual trauma, I’ve done my own healing work to be here. I share this not to center my story, but so you know that I can hold space for yours without flinching. You don't need to protect me from your reality.

Outside of counselling, I can be found playing Dungeons & Dragons or video games (I’m big on RPGs and deck-builders). Otherwise, I’m likely at my stationery desk playing with fountain pens, cross-stitching, or curled up with my kindle!

Image Description: Melanie is centered in the photo, sitting indoors and softly smiling at the camera. She has long, wavy blonde and black hair. She wears round glasses with decorative chains and a black top. The background consists of large windows and a blurred view of city buildings.

Melanie Tan

(she/her/hers)
Pre-Licensed Associate Counsellor

In-Person and Virtual Sessions

Melanie is not currently accepting new clients, waitlist available for June 2026 start!

If you are interested in connecting with Melanie, please contact melanie@expressivewellness.ca. For existing clients, self-book here.

English, Queer Identified, BIPoC Identified, BIPoC & Queer Identified, Available on Weekends, EMDR, Waitlist Available, Sex Therapy, Pre-Licensed CounsellorLuisa OspinaVirtual, In-Person, Hybrid, Individual Counselling