Melanie Tan

  • 15 min Phone Consultation
    No Cost

    Individual Counselling

    50 min
    Sliding Scale: Closed/Full
    Standard: $120
    Generous: $125+

    75 min
    Sliding Scale: Closed/Full
    Standard: $170
    Generous: $175+

  • Location: Ontario & Broadway, Virtual

    Days and Hours:

    • Tuesday 8:00am - 5:00pm (Virtual)

    • Wednesday 3:00pm - 7:00pm (Virtual)

    • Thursday 1:30pm - 7:00pm (Virtual)

    • Friday 9:00am - 5:00pm (In-person or Virtual)

    • Saturday 9:00am - 2:00pm (In-person or Virtual)

    • Existential

    • Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing

    • Person-Centred

    • Narrative

    • Trauma Focused

    • Feminist

    • Internal Family Systems (Parts Work)

    • BDSM: Working with Kinky Clients—The Westland Academy of Clinical Sex Therapy

    • Canadian Certified Sex Addiction Specialist—Canadian Addiction Counsellors Certification Federation

    • EMDR Therapy — Alivia Maric, PhD, RPsych and Eve Wilensky, MA, RCC EMDR Training

    • Painful Sex: Working with Genito-Pelvic Pain/Penetration Disorders (GPPD)—Allura Sex Therapy Centre & Provider

    • Sex & Gender 101: The Basics (Mini Course)—The Westland Academy of Clinical Sex Therapy

    • Sex & Trauma: Helping Clients Move Beyond Trauma & Reclaim Their Sexuality—Allura Sex Therapy Centre & Provider

    • Master of Counselling Psychology, Adler University

Bio

Hey, I’m Melanie! I’m a sex therapist trained in EMDR, with an identity of being bicultural (Singaporean/Canadian), demisexual, and a cisgal familiar with polyamory. I've also recently started looking at my own type of neurodivergency. I look at therapy with an existential lens—meaning we don't just put a band-aid on your immediate needs; we tackle "big questions" about life, direction, and who you are at your core. Ultimately, my philosophy is that you can't heal in hiding, so I bring my whole self to this work so you can feel safe bringing yours.

I work with all kinds of folks regarding all sorts of topics, but my sweet spot is helping with:

  • Sexual Wellness: such as but not limited to: desire, libido, kinks, pain, identity.

  • Shame, Trauma, & Compulsions: untangling shame around sex, fetishes, and compulsive sexual behaviours (such as chronic masturbation).

  • Sexual Assault Trauma and PTSD

  • Relationship Dynamics: navigating poly, ethical non-monogamy, and kink dynamics

  • The “Big Stuff:” life’s direction, meaning, and who you are at your core.

I’m trained in EMDR, so if you feel you’ve been talking in circles in therapy, we can try tackling things in a somatic way to unlatch its claws from you.

I try to make my space as warm as possible, but you can expect unfiltered honesty from me. I’ve been told I have absolutely zero poker face. Also, as a survivor of sexual trauma, I’ve done my own heavy lifting to heal—which I share not to centre my story, but so you know I can hold space for your thoughts. You never need to protect me from your truth.

Outside of counselling, I can be found playing Dungeons & Dragons or video games (I’m big on RPGs and deck-builders). Otherwise, I’m likely at my stationery desk playing with fountain pens, cross-stitching, or curled up with my Kindle!

Image Description: Melanie is centered in the photo, sitting indoors and softly smiling at the camera. She has long, wavy blonde and black hair. She wears round glasses with decorative chains and a black top. The background consists of large windows and a blurred view of city buildings.

Melanie Tan

(she/her/hers)
Pre-Licensed Associate Counsellor

In-Person and Virtual Sessions

Melanie is currently accepting new clients!

If you are interested in connecting with Melanie, please contact melanie@expressivewellness.ca. For existing clients, self-book here.

English, Queer Identified, BIPoC Identified, BIPoC & Queer Identified, Available on Weekends, EMDR, Sex Therapy, Pre-Licensed Counsellor, Accepting New ClientsLuisa OspinaVirtual, In-Person, Hybrid, Individual Counselling